Dear Ellison, Heino, and Gibbs,
I enjoyed reading your article and their were many points
that you hit on about the management of online self’s within an online dating
world. The way online dating has become
popular recently is huge. It is no
longer a small odd market, but mainstream ideas that many people use these
days. People are constantly busy working 24/7 all over the world. The term of Weisure Lifestyle came to mind
where no longer is the job 9 to 5, but all day, every day. The life of work and leisure blend too much
and this is why online dating has become so prominent lately. Many sites hold a value to each there
own. Along with each site, the creation
of a personal profile is a crucial step to self-presentation. As you mentioned, “Self-presentation tool…it
is the first and primary means one’s self during the early stages of a
correspondence…”. This is huge is
regards to creating opportunities in an online dating setting. This is your first and only way to create
that impression that you would do in real world settings. A problem that could be associated with this
would be personifying attributes, which don’t really go along with the
person. Falsifying the profile data
could really hurt people’s chances and make others who might be interested in
your profile become less trustworthy or more investigative of the person of
interest. This a huge problem that is a
major setback to online dating sites.
Within the Baym chapters, it is noted throughout about how
connections that are made online with profiles and relationships could be
beneficial. It is mentioned that these
online profiles hold a sense of safety for those who might be less extroverted
in the real world. It is easier to meet
more people in an online setting and have that real life first meet be more in
a controlled setting. Like I mentioned
earlier, people are busy and it might help the person feel more in control of
their love life. The meeting of new
people online is easier and lets those who are looking be more receptive to meeting
these new people. The ability to control
how one perceives you is huge and if most people were to stay true to this
within their online profile, online dating would become very, very proficient. Baym really explains how this is a very hard
problem to overcome as everyone wants to be viewed in a specific way. Manipulating ones self-presentation happens
to much within the Internet and so many people have manipulated profiles that
people become slightly harder to impress because people view others with a
slight skewed vision. I think if people
are taking the time out to find love online, you have to be true. You can’t just screw others over in the
beginning with false info especially on the internet where anything goes most
of the time. In all hopes, the purpose
of the Internet dating to meet in person and continue a relationship that
overcomes the idea of false advertising of ones self.
Carlos Feliciano
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