(Week 11 Post)
Dear Nancy Baym,
I thought your coverage in chapter 5 of the process of
meeting new people and the presentation of self was interesting (and I feel the
same about chapter 6 and your discussion about relationship development and
maintenance). I agree when you said that digital forms of interaction may be
said to lower inhibitions, make it easier to find shared interests, and make it
easier to make friends across social divisions, however, they also force us to
consider whether those we interact with are who they say they are. I find this true because I know people
that use Facebook to do this, they talk to people through Facebook Chat making
themselves come off as the person they want to be, and they have open conversations
about a variety of topics as if they are best friends, yet if they see each
other in person they barely know how to say hi. It’s just something about not being face to face that gives
people a sense of security, but worry at the same time about who’s on the other
side. This goes along with Ellison
et al’s article about online impressions and self-presentation. Even though she talks about online
dating environments, it still covers the same topics: how people portray
themselves online. In their
article they write about these participants and how they don’t always realize
but they make themselves appear better than they are, as if it’s a fantasy or
“ideal” image of themselves in order to get people to connect with them. They even bring up the “Foggy Mirror”
phenomenon that explains that people may misrepresent themselves because of
technical constraints or tendency to present an idealized self because of the
limits of self-knowledge. One
example was that people explain themselves by how they see themselves however
it might be a different perception from how others see themselves, which
affects results. This ties into
your chapter because this will affect like you said, that question in the back
of our minds... “Are people we interact with really who they say they are.” Another
thing the authors mentioned I thought was interesting was that, “the
face-to-face interaction they anticipated meant that individuals had to balance
their desire for self-promotion with their need for accurate self-presentation”,
I never thought of that as something someone would have to worry about, but if
people are using dating websites this is certainly something that is very
important. In your chapter 6 covering relationship development and maintenance,
I agree with how you explain that as more forms of communication are added due
to strengthening relationships, it usually exposes us to more social cues, for
example going from emails to phone calls. I think it’s so true, because as
discussions cover more varied topics and include more personal information, the
relationship becomes closer. I liked how you pointed out that there is no
correlation between the form of communication we use (whether it’s face-to-face
or virtual) and the closeness of our relationship. I agree with that because I
could talk to someone at work everyday and still not be close to them, however,
my dad lives in Florida and I Skype/call/email him regularly and feel a lot
closer than I do with any of my coworkers. It all depends on the relationships being built I guess, and
I guess I’m not trying to build those particular relationships with certain
coworkers as I am with family members.
-Gabby Theroux
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